The Dochas Centre 50 Campbell Street, Lochgilphead, Argyll PA31 8JU Scottish Charity No 029821
Carers Centre & Gallery
“ Bringing together people who care “
Sasha by Lochgilphead
Loss is a terrible thing whether it be from the death of a loved one or from the devastation we feel over a loved one’s long-
Each time I visited John during those trying months, this same receptionist would mention the Dochas Centre. Having been raised correctly I finally decided a response was in order…I would drop in at the Dochas Centre, make an appearance, do the necessary, give a positive response to the hospital receptionist and, having done my duty, be left alone. And so I stopped in at the Centre; told my story to Maggie McLaren; cried a few tears…and was off. Mission accomplished. I was absolved from my perceived obligation to both the receptionist and the Dochas Centre.
But the Dochas Centre was not fisnished with me, nor I with it. As the days passed and in a daze I went about my daily tasks I kept running into Maggie McLaren. In the Tesco, at the Co-
What stands out about the Dochas Centre, among many other things, is its availability. Use it; don’t use it; use it a lot, use it as little…IT’S ALWAYS THERE TO BE CALLED UPON!. For the time you are there it’s YOUR space, YOUR time, YOUR chance to share your story, your fears, your concerns, your perceived failures, and happily, your successes. I’ve done this many, many times even after John’s departure in September of 2009. In a very real sense I’ve needed the Dochas Centre, albeit in a different way, even more since John’s been gone. Support without the follow-
AND LIKE WE USED TO SAY IN THE 1960’s: YOU CAN’T BEAT THAT WITH A STICK!!!
Anne, Isle of Islay
Dochas has been supporting me for 2 years and a half, and now we have a “group” on Islay. We meet once a month and whatever the “theme” for the day we always have fun. Lunch is also included. Outings have included trips to Jura, Colonsay and Portavadie – may be a small fee for that. “Caring for carers” is the aim of Dochas but their holistic approach covers the total situation. An ear and a shoulder are always forthcoming and where required a very pro-
Coming to the group means I am able to unburden my troubles that I am not able to express elsewhere. I know that it is confidential and that people understand. It stops me feeling guilty as no one is judging me on what I am saying. Being able to come to the group and discuss things makes me feel better.
The group has helped to develop friendships. I can now pass the time of the day in the street with someone from the group knowing that they understand and that their “how are you?” is a genuine one. Caring can be very isolating and coming to the group is good company. I have met some really nice people that I would not have otherwise met. I don’t know what I would have done without this group.
Being able to come to a group where I don’t have to take on a role of responsibility is great. This is the first time that I have been the beneficiary of a group and not had the stress of running the group put on me. I can come to the group and have my tea and cake made for me and I can be pampered. It makes me feel valued and that I am not on my own.